I'm gearing up for another long solo-parenting stint and I'm not looking forward to it at all, not one tiny bit. However, this is just my life and that's all there is to that. My mom is coming in town to lend a hand and I'm going to have our babysitter come in to help as well. Previously, I didn't want to have any help because I felt like this was my job and it reflected poorly on me if I couldn't hack it.
I've since seen the light.
I can't do everything and I certainly can't do it all alone. I need help; not a ton but an extra set of hands on occasion will save my sanity and it doesn't mean that I'm not busting my tail or that I'm not a good mom. It just means I can't be everywhere and do everything and that's ok. So I'm having people clean my house and I will be paying someone to come hang out with Sofia while I catch my breath. That way I can be the best mother I can be.
I am so blessed to be their mother and they deserve only the best.
And if that means I get a mother's helper so I can smile more often, then so be it.
They're worth it.
Happy Mother's Day, my friends.
Awesome picture of you and the girls!
ReplyDeleteGlad you're going to allow someone lend a hand now and then.... :)
Happy Mother's Day!
Hooray! Glad you found a solution that in no way reflects poorly on you. It is the solution that makes you smart and efficient...making your time with the girls much better:) if I had the resources, that is exactly what I'd do too. I am lucky to have my mom here--so happy you have yours coming soon! And--love the dresses!
ReplyDeleteYou are beautiful…and so are your sweet girls. Enjoy your Mother's Day weekend. :)
ReplyDeleteArgh, I always seem to miss your great back-to-back posts when we're away! Catching-up now and boy did I miss a lot. Firstly, gorgeous photo of you and your girls!!
ReplyDeleteAs an African woman (*ahem* raised mostly in the US... but I digress), I say this with near certainty: child rearing does indeed take "a village." And when a village is not available, you create one; and that is exactly what you're doing. This means different things for different folks. Back in my child care days, I worked for diff. moms in diff. capacities, including as a mommy's helper. I saw and know from personal exp. the diff an extra set of hands can make.
Feliz Dia de la Madre; may you enjoy this Mother's Day with your daughters and your mom!
Good for you! Being a great mom means you created a wonderful environment for your kid to grow & feel loved in, not that you did every single ounce of work around the house. I am so happy to hear you'll have a chance to breathe and enjoy those beautiful little girls!
ReplyDeleteAww, love their matching outfits! And good for you for getting some help, you are doing a tremendous amount of work.
ReplyDeleteOH MY GOD. That picture is everything! You should frame that one...the matching outfits? I can't take it. Happy Mother's Day!!
ReplyDeleteAmen! If my hubby wasn't around to help out with the household & children duties I'd be all for hiring help. Wait, who am I kidding? I have a cleaner come once a month anyway! If Char was gone, it'd be even more. Good for you for doing what you need to keep your sanity intact. :)
ReplyDeleteHappy mother's day! Such a great picture.
Good for you girl! Get your village! There are no trophies for being the motherhood martyr. ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you saw the light. I think it's good for us moms to NOT do everything and be everything -- that's an impossible standard that no one can be held to. If we think anyone IS doing everything and being everything, then we're missing a part of the picture. I hope when my kids have kids that I can help be their village.
ReplyDeleteCutest. Picture. Ever. Drew should have this on his desk at work.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, we are not made to carry the world on our shoulders... it's ok to have help!!!!